I thought I´d better write about my host while I´m here.
I arrived in Sao Paulo on Saturday. I lost my voice two days prior to the flight, and I had been very ill during the night - I haven´t told the others how bad because I didn´t want to worry them. So I was in a pretty bad state. Losing your voice sucks, man. You can´t do much for yourself and people have to guess what you mean - yes/no questions only. I know sign language but the Fellows don´t so I did some writing for them. Otherwise they found it difficult to speak to me because I couldn´t keep up any kind of conversation, but some were very good at monologuing so it could have been a lot more lonely than it was. I hated feeling so helpless and was way frustrated the whole time; of all the bad experiences here, I did not see this one coming. It was gone five days total.
So when I arrived I was still ill, looked like rubbish and couldn´t speak; it didn´t really coincide with the impression I wanted to give to this Brazilian family that would be hosting me for the next two weeks.
When we flew into Sao Paulo, half of us were asleep but I was staring out the window. Basically, all you can see in any direction is the city. From hundreds of feet up, it looks very flat, but stretching to the horizon are buildings upon buildings, with no break; loads of blocks of flats and skyscrapers, but also normal houses. From near the airport we didn´t really see the favella communities but they are here somewhere. Here everyone moves at a very fast pace, and there are no beaches and few parks. This is a very polluted city, and hosts 11 million of the 200 million people here; now they build vertically all the time because they are running out of room.
The British Council building here is way slick; it´s all steel and glass, a smooth pond thing around the outside and in. We attended the welcome session - we seem to get these a lot here - and awaited our families. Mine arrived and said hi, and Carlos explained about my voicelessness. The family were obviously unsure of what to say. I promptly burst into tears. I´d been on the brink all day - but I think the sheer social humiliation and knowledge of how difficult it would be, for me and for them, was the tipping point. So I got over that a bit and wrote what I wanted to say. I´m not convinced that they could read it because they have a different script here and the Fellows can´t even read my writing, but they nodded and smiled. So that was cool.
After some ´meet the hosts´session which involved trying to speak again, we had to leave with our families. I suddenly realised how weird it was that I was saying goodbye to the Fellows - that I wouldn´t see any until the following Monday. Sure it was less than 36 hours but I had never been out of their company for the last two weeks. I´d grown so used to it, they are like my second family.
I went home in the host´s car. My ´host sister´as Bintu is calling them - which I think is adorable - is called Bruna da Silva. She is sixteen, small, with pale skin and dark hair. Perhaps the best way to describe her clothes is like ´gothic´ but it´s not in an intimidating way, and it really suits her. She´s absolutely lovely and was good at talking about her life without prompts - as I couldn´t give any. She´s quite shy as I used to be, and is interested in IT. She speaks amazing English, it puts my Italian A level to shame. She had learnt outside of school for several years though, at Cultura Inglesa.
When I got into the car I immediately noticed that I had no seatbelt. I´d seen it in the taxis in Rio but had thought that was just a taxi thing. I asked later, and apparently it´s illegal to not wear your seatbelt in any part of the car, but people only bother in the front seats. The driver finds it minorly offensive if you put your belt on. I don´t want to risk my life for this though so I insist on putting it on, in cars which have them.
It seems there are a few laws on driving here, but the people take them or leave them as they choose - more than in the UK. Like indicating, for instance. They may, they may not. And if they do, they may not actually turn, they may drive for a few blocks with the indicator on, and then switch it off. Switching lanes is not a big deal here; there seem to be no rules and you never indicate to switch, even in heavy traffic. And big roll-backs are basically their style of driving.
It makes being a pedestrian particularly hazardous; they all agree that Brazilian drivers are ´crazy´. Their words, not mine. As a man in Rio told me once, ´When crossing a street, even a one-way street, you look to the left, you look to the right, you look to the left, you look up to the sky, and then - maybe, you go!´ So we´ve all had some pretty near misses, even with how cautious we are as Britons.
So this is what I was observing on the car journey. Also, because it was night I couldn´t see much, but there were like five-lane freeways throughout the city centre, and Bruna was telling me about the richest roads in Brazil where everyone is a millionaire.
We arrived in the south on the outskirts of the city centre. Bruna lives in an orange block of flats, where you park downstairs in this multi-coloured car park and then take the lift up. It´s about 20 storeys high, and she lives on the 15th. There are always people manning the security system and the double gate. In Brazil, because of the high crime and abject poverty, everyone with anything worth protecting has high gates - about 8 feet is the norm. Even outside pretty little houses and things. They have lights which flash when a car is coming out of the garage, but I rarely notice them so I´m always in the way.
Bruna´s flat is really light and airy, a little petite but you wouldn´t really need any more space I think, it really suits them. Brazilians are apparently really neat and my family is no exception. I know I´m going to struggle with this as I´m ridiculously messy, and after one day they already had to ask me to tidy my room. Not in a horrible way, they were just worried I wouldn´t find anything! The worst thing was, I was surprised as I thought I was being really neat!
The family were totally cool about my vegetarianism, and even though I have all these silly allergies to random foods I´ve only reacted once in the last four days so that´s cool. The food here is really salty, but always full of vegetables unless you go to a burger bar of course. The first night I didn´t notice what I ate since I was so tired and ill, and for the third night in a row I slept for fourteen hours. Otherwise the food they give me is really varied; there is of course lots of salted rice but also pancakes and other things, fruit and stuff which is cool because the fruit here is so different; there´s loads of weird stuff from the Amazon which we insisted on trying whenever we had the chance. Half the fun with food here is eating stuff you don´t even recognise - the other half is trying to read the menu when you have a limited Portuguese vocabulary...
I have Bruna´s room whilst she shares the double bed with her mother. In the other bedroom is Bruna´s cousin Marcus. Marcus also speaks good English which he learned off TV shows and music in English; I was impressed at his eloquency given the way he learned it; I´m not sure I´d have the willpower to learn a language from these kinds of sources.
Here the families have very close relationships. They are always touching and hugging and kissing, calling eachother ´daughter´ and ´cousin´ etc. They have the same relationship between teacher and student - and whilst that would be way weird and may scream of paedophaellia in the UK, here it´s not blinked at. It´s really nice and the Fellows have developed this kind of a culture, it´s kind of cute.
The Fellows also have a set of vocab which we use all the time. Because we´re all from across the UK we´ve brought different things to the metaphorical table. Like, Prab, Muj and Raadia have got us saying ´man´all the time - which sounds ridiculous in my posh Southern accent. Also ´Mate´is always used, as well as ´love´- from Joe. Some of us use ´Dave´as a nickname for anyone; it came from Lauren Davies´s name but has transferred to the rest of us. ´Awkward turtle´ is used when a situation is - awkward - and if you want you can run away after your metaphorical awkward turtle - there´s a handshape to go with it and all.´ ´Tension peg´ is quite interesting, because it´s solely ours. When two people are tense with eachother and you could cut the atmosphere with your metaphorical knife, you say there´s a tension peg, or someone has tension pegs. It came from Joe and Charlie mishearing my explanation of ´tension cake´- another thing - but now it´s spread through the whole group and has its own hammer-and-peg hand gesture and all. Which is quite cool.
Way off topic, I´m not sure if the reader cares about this but it´s part of my daily life here so I thought I´d put it in.
Anyway, the family are lovely to me. When I revealed that I could understand and speak some Portuguese they were thrilled, but I only told them yesterday when I started being able to make a little noise. The mother treats me as her daughter, and the cousin is mad but really cool and so friendly. I think we´re going to get on really well, I´ll probably really miss them when we leave.
I´m terribly sorry but my time just ran out; I go to their night school with Bruna, it is 10:45 so the end bell just went. I will finish this later!
April
EDIT - Continutation of this post, current date Wed 4 August.
I´d like to post a bit more about food. In my host family you eat when you´re hungry; my host mother cooks meals but keeps them until you want to eat. I was introduced to Feijoada - rice and beans - in Rio, and it is not as bad as it sounds, it´s full of flavour. Here they gave me ´Romeo and Juliet´which is cheese with guava jam, so named because they are inseparable. This tasted okay but is definitely not my favourite food. They spread caramel or cheese paste on biscuits, which they may have for breakfast, along with brioche. They looked at me like I was crazy when I asked for milk on my cereal; they´d loaded it with honey so thought it was strange that I also wanted milk.
They really like fast food and sweets here, but fast food is slow and expensive compared to in the UK. And if you ask for a veggie burger in MacDonald´s you get a roll with cheese and lettuce. And if you ask for something vegetarian you have to explain what vegetarianism means or you get a ham sandwich. It´s not even my Portuguese accent; many Brazilians don´t know what it means.
There are lots of food stalls everywhere here. In Rio they were on the streets, but here they´re dotted around the malls, selling things from chocolate kebabs to cheese bread puffs to sweetened nuts. I can´t remember the last time I was hungry - I just like to try everything so probably have a ridiculous calorie intake.
Also they have the best bananas here; they´re about as long as my palm and are really sweet. The fruit is not as visually appealing as in the UK; not as regular and bright; but it tastes fine.
I will write more on social issues in another post. I think I´ve covered the host here though, but obviously I´ll put more down later as it develops.
April